We’re Heeeeeeere (almost)!

Here we are, approximately 264 hours until the day I’(we’)ve been planning for the past year. It is still incredibly surreal. I haven’t been able to wrap my head around how close it is. Whenever I try to, it all still seems so far away. Its not though. WAKE UP, EM! TAKE IT ALL IN! 

 

A few weekends ago, my cousin who happens to be the best maid of honor this side of Jupiter, threw me the best bachelorette party anyone could imagine. Everything that she planned was above and beyond all and any of my expectations. I am so lucky to have her in my life because she is truly an incredible woman! I was under the assumption that she would host it at her apartment in Boston, a few girls would come, we’d make dinner, and then go to a bar or something come night-time. 

I won’t go into too much detail because after-all, what happens in Newbury Port/Sea Port/Kittens/Pottery Isle/Holiday Inn Express/The Port Tavern stays  in Newbury Port/Sea Port/Kittens/Pottery Isle/Holiday Inn Express/The Port Tavern. ImageHowever, everything blew my mind. Kate added all of these awesome touches to the day that really made it feel really special. The hotel room was decorated to the nines and she made goody bags for all of the girls that came (including me!). She put out fake tattoo books for everyone to use  & I found out that my spirit animal is an octopus. I never realized it before, but when you know, you just know. Trust me. She had the women in my family, future and present, write down some wise marital advice to give me and put them in little bottles for me to open. She got cigars with custom made wrappers on them for us to celebrate with at night. I was just so happy to see most of my bridal party as well as my close friends all in one place before the big day. I’m just lovin’ feelin’ loved!

            This past weekend I had another hair trial with Dorian to make sure everything would go smoothly come June 21st. She touched up my highlights for me as well. It was nice to sit in the salon for a couple of hours and relax. There were about 3 other wedding parties there having their hair done, so it was exciting for me to think that I would be in their shoes in just a week and a half! The hair style that she created came out perfectly and it didn’t take long to execute which is great because she will be able to spend more time on the bridesmaids in the morning.

            On Sunday, Andrew and I met with the deacon who will be marrying us for the first time. We are VERY pleased with how everything is working out with the Church. They have been more than accommodating and helpful with everything I’ve come to them with. The deacon went over our FOCCUS test that we took back in February at the church. We aced pretty much everything, so Andrew and I were mentally high-fiving each other for that. Its great to feel awesome! As it turns out, the deacon used to race Porsche 911s and has owned almost as many VWs as Andrew has and loved to mod them. I just can’t get away from that stuff, huh?

Afterwards, my mom, Andrew, Elaine, and I put together the seating chart. Dad poked his head in every now and again to see how it was going. He made himself scarce for the most part, and I don’t blame him! A year ago I was actually excited to do this part. Everyone called me crazy and I was like “nuh-uh!”. Now I know why they called me crazy. It wasn’t AWFUL, but it was definitely the hardest thing to do so far. Our table and the other wedding party table was easy to put together, so we got that out of the way quick. Andrew’s and my friend’s tables were also easy and got those done too. However, family? HARDEST EVER. “do these people get along?” “Do these people even know each other?” “should we just mix everyone up?” “what is this person’s date’s name?” “this person is flying in from Siberia, can we put them with these people since they haven’t seen each other in awhile?” “where do babies come from?”…its just UGH. Names are floating around in your head and you can’t remember if you seated them already and you hope to God you don’t miss anyone or skip over someone. ImageIt took longer then expected, but I am so happy to have it over with. We are already talking about moving a few people around, but at least the majority is done. When you think about it, these tables are only going to be used for about an hour out of the entire night. And people will be eating, getting up the go to the bar, getting up to chat with people, etc.

We ended up getting it all done and stopping at the Flying Bridge to get another visual and to make sure the chart we were using would work with the flow of the room. Laura, the coordinator, happened to be there and was a HUGE help in showing us how the tables would be set up and where we could move certain tables to make more room, etc. I think we are both pleased with how it will look. Hopefully our wedding day as beautiful weather that we did on Sunday! You really can’t beat the view from the wrap around deck. 

So now we are just getting the small things out of the way. We are finishing up our ceremony program as we speak (literally), I am trying to get a schedule together for the rehearsal and rehearsal dinner as well as the day of for both the girls and the guys, and I am having my make-up pre-trial tomorrow. Mostly, I am trying to enjoy my last few days as a “single lady”, though not too much, and trying to capture this exciting feeling that is rushing from my toes to my head 24/7. 

Maybe the next entry I post will be a re-cap…maybe not! Time will tell. 

Our Finest Year

A year ago, I was sitting on the edge of my seat waiting for the most exciting moment of my life to happen. The anticipation was killing me. It felt like everyone knew but me.

I remember everything and I remember nothing. I tried so hard to drink everything that was happening in that moment. Trying to remember if the tide was coming in or going out, what I was wearing, what he was wearing, what the strangers around us were wearing, whether I had my toes dug in the sand or not, what knee Drew decided to bend down on, if I had the green chair or the blue chair, whether the sun was behind the clouds or if it had come back out for a few seconds.

The only thing I remember from those 20 seconds was what he asked and what I said. I guess that’s all that matters, right?

I think what I remember most is the adrenaline and excitement I felt that whole day afterwards. Most of which I am still feeding off of now. 

The past year has been a whirl-wind. I can’t believe its been a year since this all started. I can’t believe we’ve bought a house and planned an entire wedding all in the same year. We are either really really awesome or really really insane. Unless everything falls apart in the next 30 days, we pulled it off. Obviously, with a lot of help from our nearest and dearest. If we didn’t have them, we’d probably still be in our apartment and attempting to plan a wedding that would be happening in a month.

But here we are. Twenty eight days from the most important day in my life. In typical Emily fashion, I am expecting the worst but hoping for the best. I am a pessimist even at the best of times. All I know is, I am going to miss this time in our lives so much. Just like I was a year ago, I am trying to drink everything in remember every detail of what is happening around me. 

I know that in a year, I will forget the small details. I will forget the conversations and the disagreements. I will forget why we decided certain things and why we passed over others. 

I’m trying not to though. 

But, thats what this blog is for, right? Even though I haven’t been GREAT at updating it, I’ve read back on more then one occasion to remind myself of certain things and laugh at what has happened only a few months ago. 

Here’s to remembering & heres to 28 days.

!!!!!!!!!

 

43.

The past few weeks, wedding planning seemed to be a bit trivial in light of the recent events in Boston. I felt sort of guilty running around planning the rest of my happy life while other people’s lives were changing for the worse.

However, in an attempt to return to normalcy, here is a MUCH needed wedding update.

 

A few weeks ago my aunts, mother, future mother in law, and maid of honor threw me a BEAUTIFUL wedding shower. I was absolutely floored at what they put together. They tried to keep it a surprise, but I did eventually find out. After all, I couldn’t just show up in my pjs! I’m also nosy and hate being left in the dark. Anyways, everything was above and beyond my expectations. I also underestimated the sheer amount of gifts that people bring to these things. Good God. I think Mary’s living room gave a McNealy Family Christmas a good run for its money! A few weekends ago, I ripped apart my kitchen and put everything we got away. I’ve never been so excited to use a blender in my life.

A week later; Kate, Elaine, my mother, and I got together and put the invites together. We did them “assembly line” style, which worked out perfectly. They were sent out a few days later. The only bummer about the invites is that the RSVPs are going to my parents house so i dont get to open any of them. However, my mother is doing a very good job at giving me daily updates about who is coming and who is eating what. The majority seem to be choosing the filet meal option, which isnt much of a surprise, but it may or may not send my dad into a spiraling fit of anxiety. Don’t go all George Banks on me, dad!

The week after that, my mother and I met with the florist again to tie up some loose ends to show us some samples of flowers. I am absolutely thrilled with what we were shown. I met a girl at our marriage-prep class that said that she has only talked with her florist via email, even though she has a shop only an hour or so away. She has no idea what flowers she is going to be using or what they look like or what her center pieces look like. TRY MEET WITH ALL OF YOUR VENDORS- CAN’T STRESS HOW IMPORTANT IT IS! If not yourself, then someone else who you trust that lives near whoever you have been speaking with. For the peace of mind alone, its worth it.

 

The week after THAT (ugh), I went for my first “real” dress fitting. I tried it on a few weeks back, as you know, but this time they figured out alterations and stuff. There isn’t a whole lot that needs to be done, thankfully. Just a hem and a tuck here and there. I brought along my veil to make sure the length looked right with everything. Spoiler alert: it looks great. I am really really really really excited for it all to come together! Still looking for a hair piece though. When I went for hair trial, my hair dresser gave me what she wore in her hair. Its really nice and almost exactly what I am looking for, but I think I want something of my own to keep.

We are really getting down to the wire here…only 43 days left! I am definitely losing more and more sleep. As soon as the lights are turned out, my mind starts racing. I’ve been putting everything i think of into my phone when this happens, but it stop me from thinking about it over and over.  

I am starting to look into the whole name change process. Its a lot more intense then i originally thought. There are a few kits that I can buy online for $30 that will give you all of the paper work and pre-fill it in for you. It might be worth it just to be sure I don’t miss anything important. I’ve heard that missnowmrs.com is the way to go. 

 

Did i forget anything? I dont think so. Hopefully I will have the energy to write a few more times before the wedding…

TCOB

I haven’t had a wedding nightmare in months. At least, not one that I can remember. The other night, I had the MOTHER of all wedding nightmares. 

            It all started out in the house I grew up in. For some reason, we were unable to use the church for the ceremony and had to use our living room instead. Everyone was able to fit in there somehow. I kept going on and on about how no one was concerned with the fact that we weren’t able to have the ceremony that we had paid to use and blah blah blah. I had to hide underneath the dining room table so Andrew wouldn’t see me before he walked down the aisle. I kept having to stuff my dress underneath me so it wouldn’t poke out from underneath the table.

            As my dad was walking me into the room I noticed 2 things: 1- I had GIANT puffy sleeves. Like, GIANT. 2- Our Christmas tree was still up. As we walked passed it, my sleeves got caught in the branches and ornaments were stuck to my dress.

            When I got to the front of the room, Andrew had to move about 3 feet to the left so he could make room for my sleeves. I started to laugh at how ridiculous everything was. Andrew’s nephew started choking on a battery, but coughed it up and I somehow got a hold of it and put in my purse (that I obviously needed with me as I was getting married).

            Next thing I knew, my parents started singing the Eartha Kitt version of “Santa Baby”. That’s when my laughing turned into crying.

 

WHERE did this dream come from? I mean, I love me so Christmas, but why is it ruining my wedding dreams? #firstworldproblems for sure.

 

Anyways, I feel like we’ve gotten a lot done in the last week. We booked our limo with Fantasy Limo’s of Cape Cod. They gave us the best deal out of the few that we were looking at & were persistent enough to prove that they will most likely show up on time.

Jen from The Pink Polka Dot in Falmouth emailed proofs of our wedding invites she mocked up. I am so obsessed with them! I went in on Saturday to see them in person and they are even more beautiful than they are in the pictures. I can’t wait to send them out! Its such a relief to have those done and Jen has been incredibly helpful with getting what we saw in our minds onto paper. I am so glad that we were actually able to design them ourselves instead of getting cookie cutter invites that 203840923483 other couples could get.

            I also picked out my shoes (!!!!) on Saturday with my mother. We went to Shoes to Dye For in Natick. I couldn’t believe how many different types of shoe they had in their store- almost all of them dyable too! The floor people were beyond helpful with telling my mother and I what was comfy, what was a big seller, what ran big/small, etc. After my mom and I picked our shoes, we had to pick the colors that we wanted. Now, if I just told them I wanted navy blue and they said “sure!” that would’ve been fine. However, when I said I wanted navy blue, they pulled this gigantic book out that had 2 pages of navy blue shades. Who knew that navy blues could be so different!? Luckily I had the swatch for the bridesmaid dresses in my bag, so I used that to match the color as best as I could. I mean really though. Two pages? A little overkill if you ask me.

            Ive been looking more and more at hair “ornaments” for myself to wear. I am still stumped as to what  I want. I love the idea of a headband, but I’m afraid it till hurt my ears after awhile or look too tiara-y. Any advice is welcome!

 

-book limo/transportation (I KNOW. WE HAVENT DONE IT YET. STOP JUDGING ME, INTERWEBS!)
-find wedding shoes (I should have a toenail by June! High five!!!)
-Complete guest book idea, email to someone with printer, put together
-Call Platinum Bridal Boutique and check on dress- book appointment for a fitting, throw-up for 2 to 3 weeks before to make sure it fits.
-Find a hair clip/comb/headband that will work with my veil
-Find a few hairstyles to also work with said veil and clip/comb/headband
-book hair trial appointment with Dorian in mid-late March
-Work on table numbers and place cards
-buy a TON of cardstock
-send in form for church ceremony
-Book music for the church
-Make rough draft of the church programs
-Decide on 2 readers and 2 program giver-outers
-Buy cutesy little decoration details
-Get letter from our Priest to give permission for us to marry in a different church (that should be interesting…)

 

i need to make a list of things i need to make a list of.

4 months (from yesterday)! So close, yet so far. My list of stuff to do before June 21st seems to be growing longer and longer everyday. Every time I think I have a good handle on everything, 4 more things pop up. Right now we are longing for June 21st to come as quick as it can, however I know come June 22nd I would give anything to be in this position right now. Woe is us!
Anyways, I really need to start making a list of everything I need to get done before the wedding…I will forget something or never get everything done if I don’t:

In No Particular Order:

-book limo/transportation (I KNOW. WE HAVENT DONE IT YET. STOP JUDGING ME, INTERWEBS!)
-find wedding shoes (I should have a toenail by June! High five!!!)
-Complete guest book idea, email to someone with printer, put together
-Call Platinum Bridal Boutique and check on dress- book appointment for a fitting, throw-up for 2 to 3 weeks before to make sure it fits.
-Find a hair clip/comb/headband that will work with my veil
-Find a few hairstyles to also work with said veil and clip/comb/headband
-book hair trial appointment with Dorian in mid-late March
-Work on table numbers and place cards
-buy a TON of cardstock
-send in form for church ceremony
-Book music for the church
-Make rough draft of the church programs
-Decide on 2 readers and 2 program giver-outers
-Buy cutesy little decoration details
-Get letter from our Priest to give permission for us to marry in a different church (that should be interesting…)

Last weekend Andrew and I met with Jen from The Pink Polka Dot in Falmouth for an invitation consultation. They specialize in all things party/wedding planning, but the actual shop is totally adorable. They have a lot of neat greeting cards and home décor stuff that I really just wanted to stuff my house with. Jen showed us a number of different invitation styles that we both loved. It was hard to narrow it down to just a few, but we managed. She showed us different layouts, fonts, graphics, envelopes, etc. Most of which I probably would never have given a second thought to until it was brought to my attention. She is going to make a mock-up for us and send it via email within the next few weeks. I am psyched to see how its going to come out!
Sunday we braved the snowstorm (yup, another one) to drive to Christ the King in Mashpee for a special “engaged couples” mass. Afterwards, we enjoyed some refreshments (3 day old Valentines Day candy…) and we took a tour of the church with about 5 or 6 other couples. The church is actually a lot smaller than I thought it was because I had only been judging from pictures on their website, but its so so pretty inside. My only concern is that the floor is tile. I was actively looking for a church with a tile floor because I feel like the carpet that they choose is always a really weird color. I didn’t think about if it rains (slippage!) and how my heels will sound on the floor. I am hoping the music drowns them out so you cant hear “clackclackclack” all the way down the aisle.
After the tour, they split the boys and the girls up so we could take what basically was a compatibility test. It was truly one of the strangest things I have ever experienced. I felt like I was taking the relationship SATs. The test has about 150 questions, but I felt like they were the same 20 questions just reworded differently every so often. It made me really nervous, I know that they can’t tell us that we can’t get married if our tests aren’t similar enough, but it definitely gave me some anxiety. Especially since there was a separate section for “co-habitating” couples that basically reprimanded us for living together before we are married. Sooooorrrryyyyy!
Regardless, the church gave us a lot of info for planning the ceremony. Since we are not having a full mass, there were a few things that we can skip which certainly takes a few things off our plates. We just have to think about who we would like to use for the music, what readings we want read and who we want to read them, make a program for the guests, and a few other things that I’ve already forgotten about.

Hopefully I will have a few things crossed off that list in the coming weeks!